Jennifer Aniston has spoken for the first time about trying to get pregnant, which is significant for the kind of people who speculate about celebrities and their fertility \u2013 which in the late 90s and through the 00s was roughly everybody \u2013 because the exact cause of Aniston\u2019s child-free life has been puzzling them for years. \u201cIt was really hard,\u201d she told Allure magazine. \u201cI was going through IVF, drinking Chinese teas, you name it. I was throwing everything at it. I would\u2019ve given anything if someone had said to me, \u2018Freeze your eggs. Do yourself a favour.\u2019 You just don\u2019t think it. So here I am today. The ship has sailed.\u201d<\/p>\n
The undisputed main star of Friends and, circa 2003, the highest-paid female TV actor in the world, has always been a template for the feminine ideal. I remember an American columnist in the very early years of Friends explaining her appeal thus: \u201cShe knows, and everyone knows she knows, she has great hair.\u201d It was such a peculiar formulation that it lodged in my mind, which was fortunate, because it was the mid-90s, so it\u2019s not on Google. The hair, not too long (attention-seeking), nor too short (feminist\/independent), not too blond (conventional) or too dark (vampy), not too shiny (airhead) nor in any way dull (frigid), was the perfect, man-pleasing hair for the late 20th-century woman; but the fact that she was self-aware, hair-wise, was important too, because it was cool in those days to be a little bit feminist.<\/p>\n
When she got engaged to Brad Pitt in 1999 (sidebar, he was the perfect late 20th-century man, for reasons we don\u2019t have time for now), the gossip columnists and newspapers globally became obsessed with Aniston\u2019s body. It must surely be the best body in the world, since how else would she have snagged the perfect man, so her life turned into a manual for the attainment and display of the corporeal ideal. There were rumours before the wedding that she was in the gym from 9am to 5pm, working so hard just on toning that she didn\u2019t have time for actual work. There were other rumours that she leant hard into this, saying that you kept a man by making sure your clothes were \u201ctight, tight, tight, the right size is the tight size\u201d.<\/p>\n
If you could map out the social expectations of femininity, Aniston would have been it: perfect hair to perfect man via perfect body leads inexorably to the perfect family. It is no wonder that the fascination with her fertility was so rabid.<\/p>\n
Womanhood completed by fertility, meaningless without it, was a peculiar creed in the late 90s; it would have made much more sense to Anne Boleyn, or anyone else instrumental in the dynastic transfer of property via the legitimate womb, than it did in an era where women were supposedly equal, or at least, financially independent. It was underpinned, I think, by the fact that a lot of cultural anxiety around female emancipation was played out euphemistically in debates about the impossibility of \u201chaving it all\u201d \u2013 what if women concentrated so hard on their careers that they left it too late to have children? What if they mistook professional fulfilment for the real kind, the baby kind?<\/p>\n
The real anxiety had nothing to do with the pain of unchosen childlessness; it was about what the world would look like if women took the lead in the workplace, who would be displaced, how that independence would reshape the domestic sphere. But why say that openly, when you can have a coded conversation and whip up anxiety at the same time?<\/p>\n
It was damaging for people living through struggles with fertility; it erased men completely, even though they are sometimes involved, emotionally and in other ways, in the procreative journey; it skated over the fact that IVF can be a heartless racket, eye-wateringly expensive treatments delivered to patients with little chance of conceiving; and it created a brood mare narrative, in which you weren\u2019t a real woman if you hadn\u2019t produced young (which, sidebar, I think drove other gothic orthodoxies, such as: you\u2019re not a real woman if you didn\u2019t have a normal, vaginal birth; if you didn\u2019t breastfeed; if your nipples weren\u2019t cracked and preferably bleeding; if you didn\u2019t have a prolapse down the line). None of this is any kind of feminism, and it\u2019s depressing to see it rehashed and reheated in today\u2019s trans-exclusionary arguments. Second- and third-wave feminists used to argue fiercely against a reductive, biological definition of womanhood.<\/p>\n
So it is unsurprising that Aniston kept all that private, but that takes its own psychic toll; in speaking now, she says \u201cI feel like I\u2019m coming out of hibernation. I don\u2019t have anything to hide.\u201d For what it\u2019s worth, I still, 90s-fashion, think she is the perfect woman. But I don\u2019t think it\u2019s anything to do with her womb. Or her hair. It\u2019s mainly her comic timing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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